Predetermined love is different than choice love. There are some who have predetermined love. This is rare. It’s uncommon. Typically, a soul will choose a different experience with every life. There are different lessons to learn with each life and different experiences to have along the way. In most lifetimes, you will choose your partner based on those lessons you need to learn.
You will have relationship after relationship that offers you spiritual and emotional healing by triggering pain within you. By choosing your partner even with their flaws, by healing your insecurities so that you aren’t triggered by another quite so often, then you can create the unconditional love that leads to predetermined love. When a soul finds healing with their partner in this way, it removes any mental or physical barriers to love. The love becomes unconditional. This in itself is uncommon. Can you say you would love your partner no matter what happens in the future? Even if they cheat on you? Even if they never want to get married? It’s uncommon that the answer is yes. This is why most relationships end. The love isn’t actually unconditional. The love remains as long as certain conditions are met. When the realization occurs that the problems of the relationship will continue without some kind of intervention, this is the choice moment.
Will you heal yourself to heal the relationship? Or will you continue to look to your partner to change instead?
If you can heal yourself and your partner can heal themself, then the relationship can heal. This is uncommon as well. Typically, one partner will heal, while the other will choose to remain the same and hope their partner’s healing will correct the relationship. That simply throws the relationship into greater dysfunction. More often, both partners blame each other and move on instead. If both partners choose healing, this choice has lasting effects. Not only does it create an incredibly fulfilling and lasting relationship, but you also learn to live a more secure life.
This secure, lasting love in this life becomes secure love in the next life. Once two partners choose each other and grow together in this way, lifetime after lifetime, they are eternally united. Then this love shifts from choice love into predetermined love. This means that your soul and your partner’s soul decide, before reincarnating into the next life, to find each other and love each other during that life. The love becomes predetermined love. This is soulmate love, love at first sight, destined love.
This love is different. It doesn’t begin well and end badly, like most relationships. It begins well, and any problems come to light immediately. This happens because the soul connection is already intensely strong after lifetimes of choice love relationships. The two of you will instinctively trust and be open with one another. This can be incredibly uncomfortable for an insecure partner. It brings healing and confrontation of insecurities into the relationship almost immediately. In a very short amount of time, the two partners are given opportunities to show each other unconditional love. The partners are able to overcome the problems quickly, and the relationship becomes secure and stable just as it was in previous lifetimes. There is no choice with this love since the choice was made before life by the soul itself.
The two great loves in your lifetime are distinctly different. Your person in this life isn’t necessarily going to be your person in the next. However, your unconditional love from this life will return in the next. Unconditional love will heal you and bond you at the same time. This should always be the goal. Rather than seeking a partner who fixes you, seek to heal yourself by giving unconditional love to another.